BDSM Gift
Last Updated on September 14, 2023

BDSM Gifts So Sexy, You'll Get Horny Just Ordering Them!

You might be a newbie in the BDSM space or a seasoned kinkster. Either way, this will give you super sexy insight into some of the best gift ideas for your sub or dom. Although, as we all know, a gift for them is also very much a free gift for you. 

Okay, let’s squash some rumors about BDSM right now. Contrary to popular belief, most BDSM doesn’t actually include extremely painful activities. Most practices involve more mild symbolic pain without any real danger.

Some of them are about taking you to the edges of titillating sensation. So don’t worry; you’re not going into a sexual experience that looks like a torture scene from a vampire movie. Unless you want to, and that can be arranged, I know a guy.

Below you can find the perfect gift ideas for your next round of spanking and teasing. Some extra luxurious sex furniture, or just some extra sexy gadgets for some sensory play. I’ve got you covered, so are you ready to explore BDSM further?

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Fluffy Faux Fur Flogger

Luxurious punishment all in one place; get your hands on this now!

 

Price
5/5
Quality
5/5
Intensity
4.5/5
Overall Score
4.7/5

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Deluxe Fetish Sex Swing

Swing your way into acrobat-level orgasms; order yours now!

Price
4.5/5
Quality
5/5
Convenience
5/5
Overall Score
4.7/5

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Talea Spreader Bar

Take complete control of your Submissive every move; order now!

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Price
4.8/5
Quality
5/5
Convenience
5/5
Overall Score
4.9/5

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For delightful punishment: Fluffy Faux Fur Flogger

This ain’t your grandma’s punishment whip. Well, maybe it is; grandma might have a kinky side.

The truth is there’s nothing like the feeling of suede leather and faux fur strips being slowly caressed across your body and your most sensitive areas.

Doesn’t the thought of it make you tingle in sexual anticipation?? Maybe it’s just me, then.

This is a tantalizing BDSM present for anyone looking to explore sensory and impact play, or who knows, they love it and can’t get enough.

Due to its small size, it’s great for anyone living in smaller quarters; no more broken lamps during flogging time.

It’s beautifully luxurious in all the right ways. All handmade, with some stunning patterns woven onto the handle.

Making this the ultimate present for your dom. And, of course, for you if you have done something wrong.

Due to the materials, and exquisite quality, I suggest storing it in a dry clean space. Don’t soak it in water; wipe it down if it needs cleaning. Last but not least, you have to use it regularly to keep it in peak condition. But something tells me you won’t have a problem with that.

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Perfect for a bit of spanking: Bound To You Paddle

This little gem is a must-have in everyone’s sex toy and accessory collection.

Cause let’s be honest, who doesn’t enjoy some free spanking? I’m constantly dropping hints to my boyfriend about being a bad girl who needs an immediate spanking.

He is not great at picking up what I’m putting down, but when he does. A BDSM paddle is the perfect item to use.

The best part about a paddle is you can use it at any strength you feel comfortable with.

Want to teach your girlfriend about pleasure spanking? Or are you ready for spanking with some extra red marks on your ass and a little more sting to fuel the pleasure?

Just spank harder, and you’re all set.

Ready to double your collection of paddles? You won’t be sorry after ordering this paddle. Introduce her to a new level of spanking.

This time your hands just won’t cut it. Although, obviously, always feel free to use your hands, and I doubt anyone will be complaining.

Well, what to say? She definitely liked this. She says it doesn’t sting as much as my hand, so she could take a lot more. I’m not supposed to use that information in the future. Hmmm... overall, it is pretty durable, yet just flexible enough to be usable by noobs (like me) without fear of becoming “un-fun”.
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Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

Vibrate her to submission or spank her into shape: Octopus SM Vibrator

The purple Octopus SM vibrator. It is pretty much an alien-looking octopus that provides orgasms that can only be explained as extraterrestrial.

The tentacles and different settings make it perfect for teasing your sub until she can’t handle it anymore. 

I suggest doing that while they are shackled to the bed. Watching them writhe in pleasure. Slowly edging them to orgasm and then withholding.

Maybe add a candle for some wax play. I’m talking edgeplay that is out of this world. Yes, I am, in fact, projecting my fantasies.

But the fact stays the same, this toy is perfect for it! Are you ready to tease your sub into submission? Because I know they are waiting on their knees for you, as we speak!

Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

Best for femdom: Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On

I will start by saying I have personally never used this. However, when my bestie opened the package, I was in the room.

And the Tracy Cox Strap-on was so lush. It’s sexy matte black, super sleek, and very effective from the stories she told after using it.

That being said, I have heard some mixed reviews about the mini vibrator not being strong enough and the size not being big enough.

It’s 6 inches, in case you were wondering.

The little vibrator goes into the hole in the dildo for anal play, and I can totally see how it might not feel as powerful as some might want.

However, even with all that I have been told, it’s a lot of fun. He used it…then she used it…

Actually, I was told way too much information on the trial using this toy. It’s almost engraved in my mind.

But it’s not like I can complain. I am constantly engraving weird sexual stories into any reader’s mind. So I guess it’s payback.

Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

The full sensations package: The Tetruss BDSM Travel Bag

It pretty much says it all in the name. This is a BDSM travel bag, and it was built to fit the Tetruss Maxximus suspension frame perfectly.

But it can be used for literally anything.

It’s a great bag to own if you love kink events or play parties while traveling, or go to BDSM clubs with your own gear.

Although some people say you can use it as a regular sex toy storage bag, I think it’s not worth the price.

I always opt for a storage box, not a bag, or just what’s simplest.

However, this is the number 1 go-to option if you’re traveling with any toys. So now you have to shop to fill the bag you’re about to buy!

Yup, it’s that good that you buy it before even owning toys to put in it.

Step into your role as a submissive or dom and enter a room carrying the promise of a wicked time. After all, there is a reason it comes so highly recommended.

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Best for Them

Bondage Sex Swing: a gift you'll both love

We all love the swings at the park as children, so obviously, someone had to create an adult swing.

And these ones are for something other than the park. Unless it’s a sex park, and I don’t even think Berlin has one of those. (Googling now, no, they don’t, what a bummer!) 

If you’ve never used a sex swing, let me tell you, it is sex-changing. Yes, that’s a term.

You can get to angles without cracking a rib, irritating your skin, or pulling a muscle in your back.

I did find this swing cut off some circulation if used for too long, but at this price, it should already be in your shopping carts.

However, getting that tingly sense and numbness is literally an aspect of bondage for some.

So this particular thing might feel like a drawback for some or a significant bonus for others!

Just be warned, you need a strong ceiling and for the swing to be put up correctly. Ain’t nobody got time for a sex accident.

Even things we've already done before, trying it it the swing just makes it even more exciting/dirty. We're both very happy with the construction of the swing, very strong and sturdy. It's super comfy, versatile and very easy to adjust.
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Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

Faux Leather Beginner Bondage Set: Unleash your wild side

Finding a good quality beginner’s bondage kit is more challenging than you’d think. So many brands sell them, but they fall apart almost immediately.

Nothing kills the mood more than being pinned down in hand, leg cuffs mid-teasing, panties wet, and snap; there go the chains.

Been there, done that, and I am not interested in revisiting it.

This BDSM kit comes with an array of faux leather, silver metal, and chains. It’s a fantastic way to explore sensory play.

Every item is adjustable, making it very inclusive to all body types, which I love. You’ll be turned on just by the sight of it.

I own this kit, even though I’m no longer a newbie. I was meeting my boyfriend in a country neither of us lives in.

We wanted to have some fun and go to a kink party together without bringing my stuff from home.

All I can say is YESSSSS and MOREEE! I wasn’t sure the quality would be good enough, but since it was temporary… In the end, I was impressed with the quality, resilience, and sleekness. I now recommend it any chance I get, as you can clearly see by adding this to my list. Feel free to test it on your own!

Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

Beginner-friendly BDSM bundle box: Try Me Celebration

This sex bundle is super exciting.

Not only does it come with 4 items and a storage bag, but one of them is the Octopus SM Vibrator which makes this entire bundle an absolute steal when it comes to money-saving hacks. 

This bundle includes a powerplay collar and leash, the open-up o-ring gag, and 16 ft of nylon rope.

This is the perfect beginner’s rope for your journey into shibari and bondage if that’s something that has sparked your sexual senses. It’s like spidey senses, but sexy.

This entire package is seriously amazing for a sexy night of exploration. Here are a few ideas for your consideration.

You can start with some shibari ties while slowly teasing your partner with the octopus vibrator.

I recommend adding a blindfold from your other sets to add that extra sensory play.

It just pairs so well with the octopus and its immense teasing capabilities. Getting tingles down my spine just thinking about it. In short, this makes a fantastic gift that can help initiate a steamy kink session for beginners or seasoned kinksters. So play out your favorite fantasy scenes you’ve only watched in porn. You know you want to.

Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

Bondage sex pillow: Black Label Wedge

Get your kinky fix with this fantastic sex pillow. It will change your BDSM game forever; I am not exaggerating.

This wedge is perfect for retrain and rope bondage play as it comes with snap clips so you can connect your restraint straps to the wedge.

Adding a wedge or any sex furniture is mindblowing. It’s crazy how even just a little wedge has so much power.

There has been an array of fabulous sex chaises coming out over the years. However, they are pricy as f**k and pretty bulky.

This is why the black-label wedge bondage pillow is an absolutely perfect addition to your bedroom fun. It’s also great if you have mobility issues, as it puts less strain on your body.

But mobility issues or not, this sex pillow is fire and makes any adventure more glorious! My boyfriend and I have managed to try some of the most creative positions flawlessly. You won’t be sorry. Strap ’em down and sit on their face, is all I’ll say.

Read also my Liberator Wedge review!

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Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

Best for BDSM master: Black Label Esse

I was talking about boujee sex furniture, and this is a great example.

The black label Esse is perfect for anyone wanting a little extra comfort and luxury in their BDSM life.

Oh, and to become a sex gymnast overnight. They said it wasn’t possible, but this chair is proof it is. 

This glorious piece of sex furniture is incredible for some proper BDSM play.

With its 24 connector points, you can strap them down (in more ways than I can think about) so they can’t move an inch while playing with their body in any way you please.

I suggest doggy style, shackles, a leash, a collar, and a flogger. Let’s not forget a butt plug to add that extra vibration. But it is all about what you prefer in your playtime! You can get into a comfy position and go at it while you watch your favorite movie. Don’t knock it till you try it.

Read also: Liberator Esse review!

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Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

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Best for Slave: Talea Spreader Bar

Spread my legs wide and call me whatever you want cause I have been naughty! Flip me over and spank me! Show me you mean business.

But seriously, this is such a fantastic gift. And not one that would be expected, and who doesn’t love surprise gifts? Time to lock your slave up and have some fun. 

This spreader bar comes in 3 colors, and who doesn’t like a selection?

Forget the vanilla sex positions behind you because you’re about to see what this bad boy can help you achieve with cuff connector points for maximum control. I love the Liberator brand because it has some excellent sex guides to positions you can try with your new purchase.

Personally, I love combining this with my fur-lining cuffs for extra comfort. If your partner has never experienced this before, they are in for one hell of a ride!

Despite being a rigid bar, they have incredibly flexible use. My personal favorite is for making it difficult to walk. Makes it very hard to do anything, and it’s also really fun to feel so exposed because of one. Highly recommend them if you like more rigid bondage gear.
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Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

Perfect for role play: Tailz Interchangeable Fox Tail

Although the website says, this was crafted for true animal role-play enthusiasts.

I strongly disagree. I had literally wanted one for so long, way back in the days when I said a hard no to any anal play.

But obviously, there was no point in buying a butt plug just cause it looked cute when I wasn’t going to use it.

Luckily the day came when I was ready to start my anal play journey.

And although I am still somewhat of a newbie, this adorable fluffy, fur-lining fox tail has shown itself in many sessions. It just fits in perfectly and stays in.

You might wonder, don’t all butt plugs stay in? The answer is no, especially if you’re not used to something up there.

Your butthole will reject it faster than a girl leaving a pervy guy on a girls’ night out. Fast, at top speed, and with no warning!

A unique feature of this toy is the magnetic base. This allows you to change to any of the other Tailz furry tail plugs. And if you’re worried about the cost, I forgot to mention it’s super affordable. You’d be surprised.

Like literally 3 coffees, and you’ve bought yourself a furry new friend, unlike anything you’ve ever seen. So obviously, with all the above information, you can see how this would make a super BDSM present for your sub.

If they are anything like me, they will try it out as soon as they open the package. Have them walk around the house wearing it. You can thank me later!

Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

For kittens who need to be disciplined: Restraint Starter Kit

Has your kitty cat been evil? It might be time for some real consequences.

And this Restraint Starter Kit is a fabulous way to dish out a well-deserved spanking.

The bells around the Paddle blend beautifully with the kitty moans of pleasure and pain.

So many yeses to this restraint-starter kit. This is a perfect gift for your sub if you’re introducing restraint play.

Exploring the world of restraint is, what I believe, the start of any BDSM play. The provided collar and leash help seal the deal with some power play and control fun.

Do all this while your sub is blindfolded; it’s way more fun to punish someone when they don’t know what’s coming.

The anticipation alone is just pure sexy torture. So are you ready? You know you want more toys to add to your collection.

Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

Best BDSM present set: Easy Toys Faux Leather Collar with Handcuffs

Buying a simple collar and handcuffs is an excellent BDSM surprise for your sub if you don’t yet have any to use.

This is also great for anyone just starting out their kink journey. You have to start somewhere, so why not start with some restraints? Am I right?

Wow, I love being restrained and played with. Who is with me?

I also think it’s perfect for anyone who travels and enjoys joining kink parties. If you travel a lot, it’s perfect cause it’s super lightweight and easily transportable. 

I highly recommend joining the mile-high club on a red-eye flight. But I have an even better suggestion to add to the sexy list.

Bring the cuffs to add some extra sexy adventure. I have managed to do this once, not in the bathroom but in my seat.

He started by blindfolding me with my airplane mask, then restrained my arms behind my back. Covered us with a big blanket and slowly teased my entire body.

At the same time, I silently squirmed, unable to make a peep because people were sitting two seats ahead of us! Super grateful for the empty flight, or that could have gotten a little awkward. That being said, being in public made everything 100 times hotter. It’s safe to say my orgasm was mind-blowingly good.

Check also: best handcuffs for sex!

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Unwrap the gift of pleasure: Full Body and Leg Harness

Yes, please, with a cherry on top! This full body and leg harness is AMAZING. So amazing that it is not just used in the bedroom.

I have brought this to kink parties and worn it to 3 festivals recently. It pairs perfectly with sexy lingerie.

Adding an extra layer of spice, adventure, and fantasy to wherever event you’re wearing it to. Even if you prefer to just wear it in your bedroom.

You will literally drop your jaw cartoon-style when you see your sub in this outfit. 

The best part is this stunning gift is equipped with quick-release clip cuffs and leads for all your dark and sexy rope bondage desires.

So strap them in, clip on those restraints and leash, and get ready to tease your sub into ultimate submission. Sir will be pleased with how easy it is.

Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!

What to Consider Before Buying BDSM Present?

There are a few things to consider before buying BDSM gifts. First, what kind of kink do you and your sub or dom prefer?

Just because it’s rope bondage gear or labeled BDSM doesn’t mean you must be into it. In all BDSM relationships, ground rules and boundaries should be pre-set, so everyone feels safe and comfortable. Having those personal guidelines will help you choose the perfect kink gift. 

Another thing to consider is the space you have for storage and the logistics of actually using the item. This is mainly important with big sex furniture and the sex swing. 

Apart from that, just be true to your desires, and feel confident to explore new things. Giving a gift of something you haven’t tried yet but are interested in is a great way to introduce something new to your sex life.

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Conclusion

Well, as you can clearly see, this list gives you a few ideas and a great selection of some top BDSM gifts to buy. The world of BDSM is exciting and sexy but, to so many, feels overwhelming and mysterious. It doesn’t have to be overwhelming. However, it will stay labeled as sexy and mysterious, and there is no changing that.

Feel the rush of being restrained, blindfolded, and sensory deprived like no other. And that is just the beginning. This world is for everyone. The world of kink comes in so many shades, not just shades of grey like the movie would have you believe.

If I were to list every kink and play type, this would end up just being a long ass list. If you want to learn more, there are many guides out there for some excellent insight into the sexy world of BDSM. Whatever you feel drawn to, there is something hot and sexy waiting for you.

So whether you’re into impact play, sensory play, breath play, or just looking to add a little extra spice and kink to your sex life, this list of gifts can help you find the PERFECT one for your sub or domme/dom. And let’s be honest, who doesn’t like gifts, especially if it’s sex-related? Take a page out of my book and buy the lot.

FAQ

What is the best BDSM gift?

The best BDSM present is the Black Label Esse. It is panty-wetting good. And ticks so many boxes, sexy, luxurious, comfortable, and literally every single bit of it screams sexy adventure. So why not try it out?

What should you not give as a gift for Domme/Dom?

For Domme/Dom, you should not give as a gift: a mouth gag, a harness with nipple clamps, or a stockade, just to name a few. From the definition, better not to buy anything meant for a submissive.

However, you can be a little sneaky and buy them something you want them to use on you. But depending on your relationship, sex life, and boundaries, only you can know if that’s allowed.

Do gifts for submissives matter in BDSM?

Yes, gifts for submissives matter in BDSM. Same as the attention and affection, or the extra time you spend. These are all different ways to give rewards and express your care for your submissive, which is extremely important in a BDSM relationship.

Liberator Black Label Esse

Liberator Black Label Esse Lounger
Convenience
5/5
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4.5/5
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5/5

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