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BDSM room design ideas guide
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Design BDSM Sex Room:
Sexiest Decor Ideas in 2020

Did you know that BDSM rooms date back as far as 490 BC?

Back then, the Etruscan people constructed what later became known as “The Tomb of Whipping.” It was a lovely chamber with frescoes depicting men and women in unmistakable positions, engaging in the activity mentioned above.

Luckily, today’s BDSM rooms are not merely tombs where people engage in the occasional ceremonial slash sexual whipping, but a widespread object of enthusiasm for those practicing the lifestyle.

Do you think it takes that much work to set up your own?

Think again.

Here, we will give you some expert tips and go through practices of setting up your BDSM room. We will cover everything from starting to adding the finishing touches.

We will also advise on how to customize your space in a way that lets you make the most of your kinky fun.

So let’s start with the nitty-gritty of sex bedrooms!

Picking the right room

Firstly, you need to decide a place in your home to transform into something more than its original purpose.

Attics and cellars are popular spots to turn into BDSM dungeons, but any room in your house might do the trick.

There are certain aspects you have to mind from the get-go: if you are not mindful enough when choosing the right place, it will cost you a lot later – both in terms of comfort and finances.

Here are several things to consider while picking the best place:

    1. Is it too small? Is it too large? – You don’t want your private dungeon to be overcrowded and look like a weird dad’s man cave. You need enough space to use all equipment appropriately and not feel claustrophobic unless claustrophobia is what does it for you.

      At the same time, you don’t want the room to be too large and lose its unique intimacy – for most people, the place of pain must have some coziness.

    2. Consider the environment – Even the perfect room can come with a few unexpected drawbacks if you don’t plan for the long term. You don’t want to choose a space that gets overheated in the summer or freezing in the winter.

      Mold and humidity are also common issues, and you will be glad later if you keep these concerns in mind when you start. So make sure your soon-to-be dungeon is adequately insulated and that you can control the climate.

    3. Make sure it is discreet – in all ways. Getting noise complaints from neighbors is not fun. Getting noise complaints from neighbors because of your activities in a BDSM dungeon… Well, that’s even worse. It is why it’s highly advised to pick a room where nobody can hear you scream, or make the space sound-proof if your apartment has thin walls.


      It is especially essential if you want to use the space professionally – you don’t want to put your customers in an embarrassing situation.

Of course, you don’t want your home sex room to be functional and comfortable. You also want to make it sexy.

So let’s see how to nail that aspect.

How to get the decoration on point?

Needless to say, the decoration is up to everyone’s personal taste, so it’s harder to provide a strict list of dos and don’ts.

You might want a Christian Grey-style red room or have your own sex bedroom decorating ideas for the perfect sex playroom.

There are some guidelines you should follow – they are based on the experiences of others who have been in your shoes before.

So here are some basic sex room design ideas.

Decorative light bulb working
    1. Be consistent with drapes, tapestry, and color – When you start the sex room decor process, make sure that once you pick a style and color pattern, you stick to it.


      Dark shades of red and black are especially popular, but whatever thrills you works if you are consistent. Minimalist or extravagant, make sure you stick to your principles.

    2. Safety is critical – If you are into candles and open fires, make sure you keep them in contained holders or out of reach. It also goes for anything that might break, especially glassware.

    3. Use lampshades – The interplay of light and darkness will put you and your partner(s) in the right mood for your playtime. Make certain that you use the right amount of lighting and get the shades right for your taste.

    4. Get creative with the art – Depending on your taste, you might want to put up some BDSM-themed art pieces.


      These could be original kinky paintings if you can afford them, or even printed-out works or classy posters. No matter what you are intending, make sure that the design is eclectic and exciting.

    5. Add a touch of green – Don’t underestimate what a few rightly chosen plants can do to your BDSM dungeon. Introducing a bit of nature to your design mix can help liven up the place. Remember, though, that you will need plants that don’t need much sunlight.

    6. Don’t forget the mirrors – Who doesn’t love to watch themselves in all their kinky glory during their playtime?

      Strategically placed mirrors could be a major turn-on, especially a full-sized one. You can also get creative with mirror fragments and even repurpose old mirrors using creative designs.

Now that you have ideas about how to get started on the creative part, let’s move to the heavy-weight stuff: the hardware.

To better stimulate your imagination, you might want to start with a BDSM dungeon tour video from YT:

Getting the right stuff for your kinky sex room

How much stuff you want in your dungeon is dependent on many things: of course, you will have a specific budget for shopping for hardware, and you will have room restrictions.

Based on your taste, you can go with many types of sex furniture and other equipment.

Be aware, though!

You don’t want to get too much cheap, low-quality stuff into your kingdom of pain, because then you might end up having pain that you had not bargained for before.

Below, we will give you a run-through of some of the most well-liked types with links to some benchmark BDSM furniture products to help you begin thinking about your budget.

Kinky black handcuffs
  1. Beds – Whether you are going for a traditional mattress, a classy lounger, or an inflatable sofa, getting something sturdy and reliable is critical.

    There’s plenty of low-grade sex furniture out on the market, and you want to avoid them. It is best to rely on established lines like Liberator’s Esse or Fetish’s Fantasy Series in your sex room.

  2. Sex swings and slings – You can’t go wrong with a sex swing, as they provide the versatility and freedom to move that most kinksters love. Most swings like the Bondage Boutique – our personal favorite – are easy to attach on ceilings and just as comfortable as they are fun for acting out your ideal BDSM scenes.

  3. Punishment chairs – Now, if you want to go the other way and would like your sub not to move, an exemplary punishment chair will be the go-to item in your chamber of pain. Companies like Tachigaeru and Ryojoku are good starting points if you want to open your horizons in this direction.

  4. Stools – If you are especially turned on by girl-on-top or oral action, getting a stool in your BDSM sex room is essential. When picking the right stool, you must make sure that it can take all the bouncing you are capable of and is easy to clean.

    Be mindful that you might want to introduce a dildo or two into the mix when using the stool.

  5. Horses – Classy, easy to use, and beloved by both beginner kinksters and seasoned pros, horses are perfect for spanking (see also spanking benches). There are some great, although more expensive custom-made pieces on the market, most standard models won’t disappoint you either.

  6. Crosses – Do you want to go medieval on someone’s ass? If that’s the case, a BDSM cross will make all your kinkiest dreams come true. It’s the perfect furniture to get tied to or to tie someone onto, and action-wise the possibilities are vast and fun.

  7. Sex and BDSM MachinesSex machines are a whole different story because there are many types out there with many different functions.

    Still, the concept of a trusty BDSM machine is tied to that of a sex dungeon, as there is no place where you could get more use out of one. If you are not sure which sex machine to choose, check out our detailed guide.

  8. Anything you want – We dare not imply that this is an exhaustive list of all the kinky stuff, sex toys, construction, furniture, and anything that you can imagine to put in your BDSM paradise. Keep an eye out for other products and appliances that will get your blood flowing.

    It is worth doing a fair amount of research before picking the exact items you buy. There are BDSM toys like special BDSM restraints, spanking benches, and other dungeon equipment out there that are worth trying.

Of course, if you are a DIY-type, or if your budget does not allow you to stack up on expensive gear, you may choose to use more low-key methods to set up your kinky BDSM dungeon.

Read on to find out how.

Some DIY solutions

If you choose between going for cheap sex furniture from sketchy sources or just building your own, you should almost always go for the latter option.

(And needless to say: Never. Buy. Sex. Furniture. Second. Hand.)

There is nothing wrong with being useful with a hammer, not least because you might end up furnishing your chamber in such a customized way that suits your needs perfectly and that you will have more control over the final layout.

DIY set of tools

If you want to go down this road, here are some essential tips:

  1. If turning regular furniture into sex furniture makes it pretty easy to start by converting regular sofas, beds, and chairs into bondage furniture. You can figure out how to attach homemade bondage equipment like handcuffs, bondage tape, or even silk strips onto your home furniture, and then repurpose them inside your bondage room.

    Wrist and ankle restraints tend to work best when attached to the side or legs of a chair, a bondage sex table, or a BDSM bed. If you have a chair with a high enough back, you might also be able to connect a gag or blindfold on it.

  2. Making your sex chair – if you are really into chair bondage, you have the option to start from scratch and construct your own chair. There are many guides on the internet about making foam chairs. From there, you may move onto customizing them in ways the original guides did not intend you to do.

    These can include using darker, more new wrapping that fits your kinky room design or sewing in extra pockets for lube and other accessories. Of course, nothing beats crafting your own wooden sex chair – this might take more effort and time, but it will pay in the long run.

  3. Accessories you will need – each DIY project requires a different set of tools, but in this case, there’s some stuff you will almost definitely need. It includes velcro, handcuffs, bondage tape, bondage rope, some furniture wrapping material, and anything else you might want to get tied down with.

  4. Mind public health issues – When you build your sex furniture, you need to ensure that it is up to safety standards like quality store-bought items. It includes using flame retardant material to cover your creations and ensuring that all bondage equipment can be undone in case of an emergency.

There are several approaches and ways to get started with your kinky DIY. Here, we aim to give you some general tips.

Remember that if you want to experiment and take building sex furniture seriously, you should do your research before beginning.

To finish off

There are tons of methods and different tricks you can go for if you want to set up your bondage room.

The most important thing is that the environment you create empowers you and your partner(s) to experiment, push your boundaries, and live out your best sex life safely.

Hopefully, the above DIY sex room ideas and guidelines will set you on an exciting journey of fantasy, craftsmanship, and sexual fulfillment.

Remember that whatever the size of your budget, if you keep safety in mind first and let your imagination take over the rest, everything is possible.

Sasha Linch

Sasha Linch

Sasha Linch is the co-founder, head writer and willing guinea pig over at furnpeak.com. She has five years’ experience working in PR and marketing. Sasha is passionate about good sex and wants to help everybody unleash their potential in the bedroom. You can find more about her here.