How to Use a Dildo?
As a certified member of the millennial club, I’ve seen some wild and crazy changes in the sex industry.
Back in my day, we had to get creative and experiment with everything, even with frozen bananas for temperature play (yep, you heard that right – and here you’ll find more crazy ideas)). But hey, at least our imaginations were on point!
As a proud owner of a wide range of toys, from the classic to the high-tech, I must admit that sometimes old is gold!
So let’s give a shoutout to the good old dildos, the pioneers who paved the way for our pleasure since the dawn of time, and discuss all the creative ways to play with them.
How to Insert a Dildo?
Let’s start by giving the head of your dildo a nice, thorough coating of lube.
Use your hand to twist and spread the lube around the top half of the shaft. Apply some lube to your finger and gently rim your vaginal opening.
Don’t forget the outer and inner labia give some love with a good coating of lube.
Use your index and middle fingers to spread your labia open and really get in there with the lube.
Slowly push the dildo in and out to spread the moisture evenly. Twist the shaft with your hand to really get things going.
How to Use a Dildo for the First Time?
Before you bring the dildo to bed, you better give it a test run solo.
You’ll thank yourself later for not feeling like a nervous wreck when trying to get your rocks off with your partner.
Plus, when you’re flying solo, you can truly focus on how it feels without any distractions.
To get in the mood for some self-lovin’, create a comfy and intimate atmosphere with dim lights, sexy tunes, or an erotic movie.
And don’t be afraid to switch up your position during the action.
Make your body your playground, and let your fantasies fly high!
But if you’re not feeling like a solo act, invite your partner to join the party and let them take the reins of the toy for a while – double the fun!
Experiment with different speeds and positions, and don’t forget to add some lube to make things even smoother.
And if you wonder what toy to start with, we’ve got you covered – you’ll find them in our best beginner dildo guide!
How to Masturbate with a Dildo?
Creating the right atmosphere is essential. Get yourself a sexy blanket, light some candles, and slip into some sultry lingerie.
Make sure to lube that bad boy up real good; Nobody got time for dryness down there. And don’t skimp on the lube, especially if you’re exploring the backdoor.
Make sure to do your research when choosing the right lube. You don’t want to ruin your toy with the wrong stuff.
But if you’re feeling extra spicy, add in some tingling or burning sensations for a wild ride.
And let’s not forget about trying different positions; get creative with a sex toy mount or suction cup dildo, take it to the shower, and alternate between stimulating your clit and G-spot (mmm… or maybe P-spot?) for some mind-blowing orgasms.
How to Use it During Couple Play?
Using a dildo during couple play can be a fun and exciting way to explore each other’s bodies and enhance your sexual experiences.
Here are some juicy deets on how to use your dildo for all kinds of stimulation and situations:
For temperature play
Dip that bad boy in warm water for a bit, or pop it in the fridge for a few (just don’t leave it in the icebox, or you might ruin the goods).
Start with a comfortable temperature and gradually increase or decrease as desired.
For G-spot stimulation
Choose the best dildo for you to reach the G-spot better.
Use a water-based lubricant to help the dildo glide smoothly.
We really liked Vixskin Johnny for G-spot stimulation. Read our review of the dildo!
For A-spot stimulation
The A-spot, also known as the anterior fornix, is located deep inside the vagina, just above the cervix.
Choose a long dildo with a curved or angled tip to reach the A-spot.
Use a water-based lubricant to help the dildo glide smoothly.
Insert the dildo and start experimenting.
For prostate stimulation
Choose a dildo with a curved or angled tip to better reach the prostate.
Use a water-based lubricant to help the dildo glide smoothly.
Insert the dildo slowly and gently, being mindful of your/ your partner’s comfort.
Experiment with different angles and depths until you find what feels pleasurable for you.
For anal play
Use a dildo with a flared base to prevent it from getting stuck inside the anus.
Use a water-based lubricant to help the dildo glide smoothly. Start with a smaller one and gradually increase the size.
Go slowly and communicate with your partner throughout the process to ensure their comfort and pleasure.
For blowjob
To enhance oral play, try using the B.J. Dildo. This specialized toy is specifically crafted for blowjobs and features a hollow center, as well as openings at the base and tip to provide additional suction.
To use it, the wearer can fasten the dildo in place with a harness, allowing the receiver to enjoy the suction sensation by either sucking on the tip or squeezing the dildo.
Adjusting the speed and pressure lets you discover what works best for both partners.
For double penetration
Use a special dildo with one end for the vagina and the other end for anal stimulation.
Use a water-based lubricant to help the dildos glide smoothly.
Communicate with your partner throughout the process to ensure their comfort and pleasure.
With harness
Use a dildo specifically designed for use with a harness with a flared base to secure it in place.
Choose a strap on that fits securely and comfortably around your waist and thighs.
Use a water-based lubricant to help the dildo glide smoothly.
Experiment with different positions and angles until you find what feels pleasurable for you and your partner.
Best Dildo-Using Techniques
Once you’re fully warmed up, then it’s time to try out some of these very pleasurable techniques.
1. Deep Thrusting
This technique involves thrusting your dildo along the entire length of vagina. It can provide intense stimulation, especially with a textured dildo.
To perform this action, you need a dildo with a firm core that’s not too bendy.
Avoid overly soft dildos, and opt for a smoother or curved one instead of a heavily textured one.
2. Shallow and Rapid Strokes
You don’t have to thrust deeply to experience the most pleasure during solo play. Most sensitive nerve endings exist in the first 1/3 of vagina.
Short and rapid strokes are an alternative to deep thrusting, and they may be easier on your wrists.
Don’t feel obligated to insert the full length of the dildo if it’s uncomfortable. Instead, use the extra length to grasp the dildo better.
3. Keep on Turning
You can use a juicer dildo that comes with cranks and turns around after insertion.
Most dildos will work with this motion, but be mindful of sharp angles that may be uncomfortable.
4. Twisting Motion
A twisting motion involves rotating your dildo after it’s inserted.
This technique is similar to keeping on turning, and it’s also best to avoid sharp angles.
5. Milk the G-spot
This technique involves dragging the top part of the dildo across your G-spot as you pull outward.
Gently press the dildo against the upper part of your vaginal walls as you slide it back in.
You’ll experience intense stimulation with rigid toys made from glass, wood, or metal.
Consider purchasing a dildo with a curve specifically for G-spot stimulation.
6. Filling Feeling
This technique involves inserting a comfortable dildo and keeping it there while you stimulate your clitoris to orgasm.
The toy can enhance your orgasm even if it remains in the same place.
You can press down on your lower stomach with your hand(s) to push your G-spot deeper into your vagina for an even more filling feeling.
How to Play with the Different Dildo Types?
There are so many different types of dildos to play with for solo or for couples play.
Suction cup
First up, we have the suction cup dildo. Stick it to a smooth surface and ride it like a wild stallion.
You can experiment with different angles and positions to find the sweet spot.
Realistic
If you’re looking for a realistic sensation, the realistic dildo is here for you.
As you close your eyes, imagine all the possibilities and enjoy the lifelike texture and shape.
Glass
If you’re feeling adventurous, try the glass dildo.
Its smooth surface and sleek design will give you a unique sensation.
It’s made to withstand high temperatures, so you can even heat it up for an extra thrill.
Strap-on
If you like to take the lead, the strap-on dildo is perfect for you!
Enjoy the sensations and have fun exploring either with a partner.
Read also our guide to the best strap-ons!
Double dildos
Want to share the fun with a partner? The double dildo is perfect for simultaneous pleasure.
You can explore new positions and sensations together. Perfect for lesbians (TESTED!)
Vibrating
Looking for a little buzz? The vibrating dildo will hit all the right spots.
And if you really want to turn up the heat, try the one with the opening for a bullet vibrator. It’s like a party in your pants!
Huge bad boys
For those who enjoy a larger size, the huge dildos are perfect for you.
Start off slow, or go all in for an intense experience.
Check also out: best squirting dildo!
Best dildo positions
Let’s explore some of the top dildo positions that will allow you to fully enjoy your toy and experience intense pleasure.
Cowgirl (with sex chair, machine or toy mount)
Giddy up, cowgirl! Take a ride on your favorite dildo with a sex chair, machine or toy mount.
This position allows for full control and deeper penetration, leading to a wild and pleasurable experience.
Best Dildo Positions
Sitting (with suction cup dildo)
Take a seat and enjoy the ride with a suction cup dildo.
This position allows you to free up your hands, enabling you to explore other areas of your body while seated in a chair or on the edge of a bed.
Lay down on your back
Relax and let your dildo do the work in this classic position.
Enjoy the feeling of being filled up by your dildo.
Bonus points if you add a vibrator for some added stimulation.
Lay face down
This position is great if you’re looking to add some extra pleasure to your G-spot/ P-spot.
Lie on your stomach with your legs slightly apart, and use your hands to guide your dildo to the perfect spot.
Sideways
Get a new perspective on pleasure with this sideways position.
Laying on your side, with one leg bent and the other straight, allows for a unique angle of penetration and a thrilling sensation.
Stand Up
Why not have a little fun without getting in bed?
Just stand up, lean against a wall, and let your dildo do the job.
This position is perfect for those who want to feel a little naughty.
Crouching
Get low and get wild with this crouching position.
Squat down with your feet flat on the ground, and enjoy deeper penetration and intense pleasure.
Doggy Style (with sex toy mount)
This position needs no introduction. Position yourself on all fours with a sex toy in front of you and let the pleasurable sensations of the toy reach your most sensitive areas.
In conclusion, with so many different positions to try, the possibilities for pleasure are endless.
Experiment with different positions, toys, and techniques to find what works best for you. And if you like adventures, you can experiment with a DIY dildo mount too.
Best Sex Toys to Use with Your Dildo
I’ve got a list of the best sex toys to use with your trusty dildo.
Whether you’re a seasoned sex toy connoisseur or a newbie exploring your body, these toys are sure to make your toes curl and your heart race.
Clit Suckers
If you need a little extra clitoral stimulation to reach that big O, then clit suckers are the perfect addition to your dildo play.
With a range of suction intensities, these toys will have you begging for more.
Just apply the sucker to your clit while using your dildo, and let the magic happen.
Strokers
If you’re a penis owner, why should the ladies have all the fun?
Strokers are designed to provide intense pleasure to your member while you use your dildo on yourself or your partner.
With a variety of intensities to choose from, you’re sure to find the perfect match for your preferences.
Nipple Suckers
Don’t forget about your nipples! Nipple suckers provide a unique sensation that can enhance your orgasmic experience.
These toys work by creating a vacuum around your nipple, increasing blood flow and sensitivity.
Handcuffs
Are you a BDSM fan? Then, you’ll love incorporating handcuffs into your dildo play.
Handcuffs add an element of control and submission that can be incredibly arousing.
Whether you’re the one being restrained or doing the restraining, the power dynamic is sure to take your pleasure to new heights.
Vibrating Butt Plugs
Last but not least, let’s talk about vibrating butt plugs. Butt plugs can be a great addition to your dildo play!
They provide enjoyable anal stimulation, and adding vibrations to the mix can really take the experience to the next level.
FAQ
How to ride your dildo?
Experiment with different positions and angles to find what feels best for you.
Start slowly and gradually increase the speed and intensity.
Make sure to use plenty of lube to reduce friction and increase comfort.
How to use it on a sex chair?
Many sex chairs have built-in attachments or slots to hold dildos securely in place.
Follow the manufacturer’s instructions for attaching the dildo and adjust the chair to a comfortable position.
What is the best lube to use with a dildo?
The best lube to use with a dildo is a water-based lubricant. However, if your dildo is compatible, you can also choose silicone-based or oil-based lube.
How to squirt with a dildo?
Squirting is a complex phenomenon that involves a combination of physical and psychological factors.
Experiment with different types of stimulation, such as G-spot massage or clitoral stimulation, and try to relax and let go of any inhibitions.
How to use a strapless dildo?
Strapless dildos are designed to be worn without a harness, but they can be challenging to use for some people.
Make sure to choose a size and shape that fits your body.
Can using a dildo cause a yeast infection?
Using a clean dildo that is made of body-safe materials and using plenty of lube can help reduce the risk of infection.
However, sharing sex toys or using a toy that is not properly cleaned can increase the risk of infection.
Practicing good hygiene and seeing a healthcare provider if you experience any yeast infection symptoms is also important.
