Gender Neutral Sex Room Ideas for Inclusive Sex Space
So you want to design a sex room? That’s awesome.
Do you also want this room to be non-gender specific? No problem.
Did you know that about 5% of young adults in the US identify as a different gender from their sex assigned at birth (1)? And that about 7.1% of the US population identifies as LGBTQ+? (2). That’s a lot of people and a lot of sexy bedrooms.
Regardless of their sexuality or gender identity, everyone deserves a hot and kinky bedroom in their house – and that’s why we’re here to provide you with the best gender-neutral bedroom ideas.
These bedroom ideas are guaranteed to work for anyone interested in designing and decorating their bedroom space, regardless of gender or sexuality!
Key Elements of a Gender-Neutral Sex Room
The key is to distinguish your turn-ons from how society tells you to be perceived based on your gender and see yourself and your partner as sexual being first and foremost.
You’re a 6’2 tall, muscular man who enjoys getting pegged? Great! You’re a non-binary person who enjoys romantic vanilla sex? Awesome! Use the following tips and ideas to add character and extra identity to your new gender-inclusive bedroom:
Color scheme
We are not telling you to completely avoid blue or pink – they may very well work as accents or smaller decor in a gender-neutral bedroom, but for your main color choices such as neutral and natural wood tones are a better idea – perhaps with small pops of green and red here and there.
Get inspired by our sexy bedroom colors ideas!
Lighting
When thinking of ways to decorate your bedroom, keep the lighting of your bedroom in mind – consider adding nice curtains or shades that maintain a sexy atmosphere without heatstrokes caused by excess light.
Not sure how to start? Check out some of our ideas!
Art and decoration
Please stay away from wall decals with corny quotes as well as princess decor and bedding, unless bad decor happens to be your kink. Instead, consider decorating your bedroom with accessories that anyone can find arousing – perhaps comfortable silky pillows, or maybe hang an abstract painting that works perfectly with your theme.
Furniture
Great choices for gender-neutral furniture to add to your bedroom include anything with wood tones and simple neutral colors, such as deep blue, black, orange, or warm browns.
Definitely avoid buying that race car bed that your husband secretly wants or hanging up those cute drawings that your nephew made you. That being said, your bedroom isn’t really a sex room without the proper kinky furniture – for this, we recommend the following ideas:
For various sex positions
We suggest the gorgeous Esse Lounger that allows for various different positions – and comes in a variety of neutral tones.
Click here to find out more about the lounger!
Pros
- Get excited for a steamy night of new positions in the bedroom.
- Made out of soft polyester, so there is zero risk of sex rash.
- Comes in colors that blend into your bedroom wonderfully.
Cons
- This may be out of budget for some without the sponsorship of a sugar daddy.
- Quite big in size, so this is not exactly a subtle piece of sexy furniture.
Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!
Versatile
Totally win over your partner with this awesome Wedge Ramp that allows for the wildest bedroom tricks.
Read our Liberator Ramp review and Liberator Wedge review! Find out also, what are the best Liberator Wedge & Ramp positions!
Pros
- With this piece, you will entirely forget about the idea of prone sex and are exposed to a whole new world of sex positions.
- Comfortable and easy to use - just like you.
Cons
- You will never want to have sex in a normal bed again.
- Slightly pricy, but anything for a great sex life - right?
Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!
Best support
Sex slings are for everyone – this purple sling by Lovehoney, in particular, offers nice support to anyone who wants to get adventurous.
Pros
- You are in for the ride of your life.
- Very easy to hide from any guests.
- Well-padded, ensuring the comfort of your swing sex.
Cons
- If you forget to pack this up when your parents are visiting your house, an awkward moment may ensue.
Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!
Sexual playground
This gorgeous Equus Wave gives you access to several different fun angles to try new tricks.
Pros
- Plenty of horizontal fun.
- Designed for the usage of maximum thrusting power.
Cons
- You might never want to stop fucking on this thing. We are serious.
- You have to cover the surfaces if you know that your sexy times might get messy.
Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!
Sex toys
Ah, sex toys, our kinky allies. No matter your identity, if you are interested in exploring your sexual horizons with various toys, we suggest the following:
G- and P-spot vibrator
This equal opportunity vibrator is a great choice regardless of whether you have a G-spot or a P-spot.
Pros
- Will give you many unforgettable nights in the future.
- Completely waterproof and has seven different modes of vibration.
Cons
- Your orgasms will make you limp for at least the next two days.
- Not the smallest toy - so if you're a beginner with anal play, this is maybe not the right choice for you.
Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!
For temperature play
Interested in exploring temperature play? This wand may be the perfect choice.
Read our full Njoy Pure Wand review!
Pros
- You will experience new erotic sensations.
- Easy to clean, and overall a gorgeous toy - especially considering the satin-lined box it arrives in.
Cons
- Your bedding and floor might be covered in water and - something else - after the session.
- This one is a little high in price.
Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!
Personal massager
Wands such as this one can be used by anyone regardless of genitalia – it can feel equally good used on a vagina or a penis.
Pros
- Need a moment alone? This wand has got you covered. Plus, points for the Pride color scheme.
- Arrives in luxurious packaging and is USB rechargeable.
Cons
- Maybe a better match than Chad from Bumble.
- Not the most subtle toy for travel.
Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!
For role-play
Enjoy the idea of playing a naughty baby wolf? This tail butt plug is a must!
Pros
- Very comfortable to wear since this one is made out of silicone.
- This one is remote-controlled - kinky fun guaranteed!
- You can easily pair this sex toy with fun costumes for role-play.
Cons
- If your baby wolf outfit is very realistic, it may attract unwanted wildlife attention.
- Currently only available in two colors.
Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!
For bondage
Enjoy getting tied to your bed? If so, take a look at this bondage set.
Pros
- This set is designed to fit any body shape and size - and also to keep you in bed for quite some time.
- Very good deal for a nice price - the selection is quite incredible.
Cons
- None, really; bondage is hot.
- Okay, let's be real - ordering takeout on the phone with a ball gag is complicated, so your dominant has to decide tonight's dinner order.
Prices are always changing. To see the current deal to spice things up, check out the shop we recommend!
Conclusion
Gender-inclusive spaces are crucial – and this applies to the bedroom as well.
Your bedroom should be your safe space, and with these bedroom design ideas, we guarantee that you get to enjoy a fulfilling sex life in your comfort zone, surrounded by the sexy decor of your choice.
Give your bedroom a new fresh identity – a neutral one – by choosing any of the above additions and decor ideas.
And before you start your bedroom makeover, get some ideas from our other articles:
FAQ
Why is it important to consider gender neutrality when designing a sex room?
It’s important to consider gender neutrality when designing a sex room because, overall, we are becoming much more aware of the fluidity of gender identity as a society – no one should feel restricted to playing a certain sexual role.
Considering gender neutrality and inclusivity when designing and decorating your bedroom allows you to explore and understand your sexual desires without having to conform.
How can I make my sex room more gender-neutral?
You can make your sex room more gender-neutral by simply choosing a nice color scheme of your preference and tweaking it with sex-positive gender-inclusive decor and details – such as toys, bedding, pillows, furniture – you name it!
We’ve gathered some great sex room toys ideas for you!
What are some common mistakes to avoid when designing a gender-neutral sex room?
A common mistake to avoid when designing a gender-neutral sex room would be to assume that a gender-neutral space automatically means a lack of color and character – this is not the case. Gender-neutral bedroom ideas and decorating can and should be exciting – not bland.
What kind of furniture works best for a gender-neutral sex room?
Furniture that best works for a gender-neutral sex room includes any of the kinky furniture listed above – as well as tasteful soft bedding, preferably in a warm color scheme. Remember that neutral furniture can be sexy and shouldn’t have to be boring.
Can a gender-neutral sex room be customized to cater to specific needs or desires?
Gender-neutral sex rooms can be customized to cater to specific needs – the gender neutrality theory recognizes that desires and needs are dependent on the individual. Much like you can customize a house for your needs, the same applies to your bedroom.
Are there any specific color schemes recommended for a gender-neutral sex room?
Yes, there are color schemes recommended for a gender-neutral sex room – but just because your bedroom is non-gender specific, it does not mean that you have to pick unsexy colors like gray or beige.
There are plenty of gender-neutral color schemes, such as black, red, orange, and warm browns. You can also throw in bright-colored accents and decor – why not? Done right, you can make even pink look masculine – if that’s what you identify with.
References:
- https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2022/06/07/about-5-of-young-adults-in-the-u-s-say-their-gender-is-different-from-their-sex-assigned-at-birth/
- https://news.gallup.com/poll/389792/lgbt-identification-ticks-up.aspx
