Kinky Over the Phone: BDSM Sexting Ideas to Turn Them On
Have you ever started typing a naughty little BDSM text for your lover, only to shake your head and delete it?
Well, that’s probably because you know it would look awkward, cringy, or worse, vanilla!
But when they are far away from you and you need to let them know that you’ve been daydreaming about tying them up and playing with them (or vice versa), sending a BDSM sext is very, very tempting.
And you know what? You SHOULD send one! It’s all the rage even in 2023; the stats suggest that 62% of millennials sext at least once a month, while 48% do it at least once a week (1).
So, if you’re ready to send that risqué BDSM text that will drive them wild, you’re at the right place. Read on to see how you can turn your dom or sub on from anywhere in the world!
BDSM Sexting Advice
Hold up; before you reach for your phone to tell your flame what a naughty person they’ve been, there are a few ground rules you should know. Now would be a good time to take notes, btw!
Rule 1: All the same BDSM principles apply, even in the realm of sexting. Consent is the Big Daddy of sexting! So before you send a steamy message describing how you plan to tie them up, ensure your partner consents to the BDSM scene.
Rule 2: Start slow; this isn’t a race. Don’t jump straight into explicit BDSM texts. Teasing is a beautiful art of building anticipation. Let them yearn for your next message; make them feel your control over the sexy text conversation.
Rule 3: Keep it on the same page. BDSM sexting isn’t a one-way street. It should be a two-way dirty talk that escalates the sexual tension. For example, if your partner shares a picture in a tight little number, hit them with a teasing message like ‘I can’t wait to peel that off you tonight’.
Rule 4: Adapt to your role. Whether you’re a dom, sub, or switch, reflect it in your texts. As a dominant, use commands and be assertive; as a submissive, let your texts reveal your longing and obedience.
Rule 5: Bring in the toys! Not physically, but textually. Mention how you will use those nipple clamps or that spanking paddle when you’re home tonight. It’s all about painting a vivid picture that’ll get your partner dripping wet or rock hard!
Last golden rule: Use a safe word. Even in a text message, if things go a bit too far, a safe word can make all the difference. Remember, the goal here is pleasure, not distress. Follow these rules, and you’re well on your way to some tantalizing BDSM sexting. Now, go on; turn your sexting into a BDSM play.
Domination Text Messages
Alright, you horny text dominants, brace yourself! I’m here to take you on a journey through the realms of text-based domination, from the sweetly subtle to the unapologetically explicit.
I’ll be your sexting Sherpa, guiding you up the mountain of control and satisfaction. Ready? Let’s dive into the digital dominatrix (or dominator) in you and turn you into a BDSM sexting master.
Light
Welcome to your gentle introduction to BDSM sexting, like your dirty text messages wearing a fuzzy, pink sweater. It’s power play with a wink and a smile. How about a message like, “I’ve been dreaming about your body all day, good girl. Wait until I get home tonight.”
You’re asserting your control, but it’s cloaked in flirty, sexy messages. It’s subtle but still adds that oh-so-delicious shiver of anticipation.
Guiding
This is where your sexy text conversation turns into a guided tour of desire. It’s not just dictating commands; it’s leading them down a path of sexual discovery.
Messages might look something like, “Imagine me slowly taking off your clothes. Do you feel my touch against your skin?”
As a dominant, you’re not just controlling their actions but their imagination too. It’s sexting puppeteering at its finest!
Sensually
Here’s where your BDSM texts turn up the heat. Sensual domination is the art of caressing with words. You could text, “I want you naked in bed when I get home, can’t wait to taste every inch of you.”
Not only does your submissive feel desired, but they’re also keenly aware of who’s in control. It’s like the dirty talk equivalent of a slow dance.
Teasingly
Teasing is the spice that adds flavor to any BDSM relationship.
The thrill of holding back, the promise of more, that’s the heart of teasing. “I bought something new today. Can’t wait for you to feel it vibrate against your skin,” might be your sexy message.
Or perhaps, “I’m imagining you, tied and blindfolded, waiting for my touch.”
Teasing builds anticipation, one of the most powerful tools in a dom’s repertoire.
Humiliating
Humiliation in BDSM sexting can be potent if handled with care and consent. It’s power play with a bite.
A dom might text, “You’ve been a naughty slut, wait till I put you over my knees and spank you.” Remember, in the realm of humiliation, a safe word is equally vital. Always ensure it’s all fun and games for both you and your sub before you jump straight into humiliation.
Bondage
Welcome to the textual bondage chamber! Bondage texts can bind as tightly as ropes.
It’s about expressing control over their constrained body. A text could look something like, “I’m going to tie you up and have my wicked way with you.”
Picture a BDSM scene and then paint it in words for your sub. The idea of what’s coming will keep them dripping wet with anticipation.
Would you like to learn more about bondage? Read our bondage for beginners guide.
Submissive Text Messages
Get ready to be good boys and girls, my dear submissives, because this one is for you! Learn how to stoke your dom’s flames and keep them wanting more with your spicy submissive text messages. Fasten your seatbelts, and let’s dive into it.
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Naughty
Being naughty is a fine art that can leave your dom hot and bothered in the best way. Sprinkle your conversations with sexy innuendos that make them think of you at the most inappropriate times.
A well-timed message like “Wearing that special lingerie you like… wish you were here to take it off me” or “I can’t stop thinking about what you did to me last night” will keep them eager for the next encounter. Remember, dirty texts are just as much about painting a mental picture as they are about explicit desires.
Written by Submissive Brat
When you’re a brat, the essence of your BDSM play is pushing boundaries and teasing your dom. Your texts need to reflect that same playful disobedience.
Keep them on their toes with messages like, “You’ll have to make me ;)” or “Maybe I won’t be a good boy/girl today.”
Remember, a brat’s main goal is to provoke a reaction, so playfully challenging your dom’s authority can lead to some intense punishment (the fun kind!).
It’s like the golden rule of being a brat: Be a tease, but remember the safe word!
Servicing
In the world of BDSM, a service submissive gets off on the idea of pleasing and serving their dom. Your messages should highlight your willingness to obey and serve!
Texts like “I can’t wait to kneel before you,” or “I’m eagerly waiting for your commands,” or even something as simple as “Your pleasure is my goal” can make all the difference in your BDSM scene.
It’s all about expressing your eagerness to serve them and how their pleasure brings you satisfaction. It’s a roundabout way of turning the tables, using obedience to drive their desire.
Obedience
Nothing is more attractive to a dom than a submissive who embraces obedience. These are the kind of texts that affirm your willingness to submit and follow their lead.
Texts such as “I will wait naked in bed for your return” or “I will take as many spanks as you like” can stoke the fires of control in your dom.
It’s like offering them a delightful buffet of power. You’re effectively telling them, “Here’s the control. I trust you. Take me on a journey.”
Each of these styles has its flavor and appeal. A good submissive knows how to find the one that resonates with them and their dom the most.
Just like BDSM itself, BDSM sexting is about exploring boundaries, building trust, and stoking desire.
So whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or just adding some zing to your daily routine, use these tips to keep your dom on their toes and itching for more.
Go ahead and make that phone sizzle with desire. Be naughty, be a brat, be servicing, be obedient, but above all, be you! Your dom is waiting. Let the sexting games begin!
FAQ
What is BDSM sexting?
BDSM sexting is the art of engaging in explicit, consensual text conversations incorporating elements of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. It can involve sharing fantasies, setting scenes, or even playing out entire BDSM scenes via texting.
It’s a fantastic tool for sexual communication and building anticipation, whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or just apart for the day.
Take a look at our list of long-distance BDSM ideas.
Why should you try it?
You should try BDSM sexting because it opens up a whole new world of intimacy and connection. It’s a powerful way to explore your kinks and desires, express your dominant or submissive sides, and tease your partner in an exciting, new way.
Plus, it’s an excellent means to maintain sexual tension and desire, especially if you and your partner aren’t physically together.
How can I introduce the idea of BDSM sexting to my partner?
You can introduce the idea of BDSM sexting to your partner by first being honest and open. Share your interest in BDSM sexting with your partner in a relaxed, non-sexual setting.
Explain why you find it exciting and how it could benefit your relationship. If your partner is new to BDSM, explain what it involves and assure them that everything will be consensual and that safe words will always be respected.
What if my partner isn't comfortable with it?
If your partner isn’t comfortable with it, do not push or pressure them. Discuss their concerns, assure them their boundaries will be respected, and consider exploring alternative ways to express your desires or experiment sexually.
What are some common mistakes people make when trying BDSM sexting for the first time?
Some common mistakes include rushing into it without establishing consent or boundaries, not using a safe word, or sending explicit messages before confirming the other person is comfortable and available. Remember, the golden rule in BDSM is consent, and this applies to sexting too.
How to dominate via text BDSM?
Dominating via text involves expressing control, setting scenes, giving commands, and teasing your submissive through text messages. It can range from light domination like “I can’t wait to see you tonight. Wear that dress I like,” to more explicit BDSM texts like “I’m going to tie you up and tease you until you’re begging for release.”
What a submissive can say while sexting?
As a submissive, you can sext by expressing your desire to please your dom, obey their commands, or even playfully provoke them.
Messages can range from simple obedience like “As you wish, sir/madam” to naughtier texts such as “I’ve been a bad boy/girl; I think I need to be punished.” Remember, the key is to communicate your submission in a way that excites your dom and keeps them craving more.
References:
- https://2date4love.com/sexting-statistics/
